Thank you so much for the honesty in your response. To clarify my husband and I are interested in embryo donation which is when couples who have undergone ivf have left over embryos from their treatment. Our infertility is due to male factor so sperm donation has been suggested. But that is not something we are comfortable with for all the reasons you mentioned. I believe that genetics do play a crucial role in a persons life and to deny that is ridiculous to me. Unfortunately, traditional adoption is so expensive that it would take us years to save (but we are still considering that option). If we decide to move forward with embryo donation the child would be brought up knowing that we were not their genetic parents and I would only want to do an semi open donation (where the genetic parents would be open to contact with that child). Do you feel that in this case it is different from pure donation? Infertility is so hard that I can understand why people choose to use sperm and egg donors but i grapple with the implications of what the effects on a person concieved this way could possibly have. With embryo donation there would not be tons of half siblings and these embryos are already created. Do you think that would have made a difference to you as a “donor concieve” individual? The thought of a child of mine feeling that they did not have an identity or that we bought them isn’t a risk I believe I can take. Again, thank you and any other feedback is totally welcomed!
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