to know or not to know

[Knowingall]

My sons donor has just been diagnosed with a genetic disorder and as a result mothers of their half siblings are connecting for support and help. Should we have these siblings in our lives for our boys sake or not? They’re only babies right now so we don’t now what to do. Looking for people who were conceived by donor to help advise what they think our sons would want.

[madilarue]

Hi there,

I know it’s been MONTHS since your initial post, but I was just scanning forums and came across this thread. I hope this doesn’t find you too late to be helpful. 🙂

I am a DC person who found out at age 19. I am now 24 and in contact with one of my half sisters. In the case of your son and his half sibs, I would encourage you to make those connections, but not force relationships. Your son may not always want to be besties with his half sibs, but helping to foster the kind of relationship they do want will never hurt them. In your particular case, given the medical news, I’d say it’s even that much more important, as your son may find comfort and support in speaking to others who share that potential medical issue.

If you’re interested in more conversation on the subject, I recommend joining one or more of the following FB groups:
(Not affiliated with the DSR) https://www.facebook.com/groups/DonorConceived/
(The DSR) https://www.facebook.com/groups/70522174991/

best wishes!

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