1) Have you had any contact with your donor? If so, is it person-to-person, by telephone, or online? What kind of relationship do you have with him? One meeting only? Occasional? Cordial? Strained? Close? Would you describe it in some other way?
I have no idea who he is. I was conceived in the 1970’s before donors were tracked. He gave a sample to my mom’s Dr. and my parents were told to lie about it and never bring it up again. I would like to have the opportunity to at least talk to him- see what he’s like, do I look like him, have half siblings, have any health issues to be concerned about, etc. but so far no close relatives have appeared on the DNA sites.
2) What term do you use to refer to your donor? Father? Dad? Daddy? Donor? Some other term? No term at all?
I don’t talk about this to many people but if I do it’s usually donor or if I’m talking about medical or genealogical topics I say biological father.
3) Is your mother a single mother, or does she have a lesbian or male husband/partner who was in your household as you grew up? If the latter, what term do you use to refer to that person?
My parents are married. My dad is my dad. I just found out about this accidentally a couple of years ago at age 40 from taking a DNA test. The cognitive dissonance is difficult to process.
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