1) Have you had any contact with your donor? If so, is it person-to-person, by telephone, or online? What kind of relationship do you have with him? One meeting only? Occasional? Cordial? Strained? Close? Would you describe it in some other way?
We have exchanged emails only. He had me talk to a “friend” of his over the phone who happened to be an adoption attorney and it seemed like he was open to a phone conversation himself, but he backed out at the last minute and agreed to answer brief medical history questions once a year. We have no other relationship, though I’d love to have one, and on my best days I’m hopeful that something will change for the better.
2) What term do you use to refer to your donor? Father? Dad? Daddy? Donor? Some other term? No term at all?
He is my biological father.
3) Is your mother a single mother, or does she have a lesbian or male husband/partner who was in your household as you grew up? If the latter, what term do you use to refer to that person?
At the time I was conceived (1977), my mother was married to my “birth certificate father,” which is how I distinguish him from my biological father. If I’m referring to the past, I’ll call him my dad, but he left my life when I was a teenager so I don’t call him anything now.
Best of luck with your research,
Amanda
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